Yup, I said it! There is a reason that book exists…… why won’t babies sleep for crying out loud?!?
We rock them, feed them, carry them, wrap them up, sing, hum, use aromatherapy, soothe like crazy. I remember playing 4 hours of Tibetan singing bowl music because I read somewhere it is the only instrumental music proven to align your brainwaves to promote sleep. Do you think my kid went to sleep with all of this? Nope, not even close. How was this possible? Any adult in their right mind would have been in a coma with all of this.
When babies don’t sleep we are usually looking for an answer, we may even begin asking the babies themselves in our sleep-deprived stupor (I know I did!). We come up with reasonable explanations like; she’s too small, he’s probably teething, it must be gas, she’s big and needs more to eat, and on and on and on.
I’m sorry to say but the real reason they won’t go the F*** to sleep, or stay asleep is they haven’t learned how.
Going to sleep is one of those things that must to be taught to most children. Many parents will complain that their child can only fall asleep with bottle / breast / soother / rocking / patting / rain dance, etc. The problems with all of these things are they are external, and baby relies on them to fall asleep. They wake up after 10 minutes(seriously?), 45 minutes ( good grief)or 3 hours( “sobbing”, not again!) and realize they don’t have their things. Baby now has a “job” to ensure all of the things are replaced, and the easiest way to get action from their minions is to CRY.
There is hope!! There are lots of ways to teach your child to be able to go to sleep independently and stay asleep. Babies and children are absolutely capable of going to sleep on their own and sleeping through the night.
Just think of all the things you could do while baby is sleeping. The best part about teaching your baby these skills is it will give YOU, your baby and the rest of the family the sleep they deserve.